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Lost in Egypt: Out of the Dating Puddle

There is a wonderful story of a poor farmer who lived under the rule of a miserable poritz in medieval Europe. The evil landowner provided minimal shelter in exchange for a large portion of the farmer’s profits. The farmer and his wife toiled under the most severe conditions to support their family with a few chickens that laid eggs and a cow that gave milk.

Ultimately, time took its toll and hardship became the norm. The farmer and his wife had their bitter routine and never hoped for better.

One day, the farmer came back from the market quite upset. “What’s the matter?” cried out his wife. “You look as if the worst calamity has happened.” “It has,” sighed the anxious farmer. “They say in the market that Moshiach is coming. He will take us all to the land of Israel. What will be of our cow and our chickens? Where will we live? Who will provide shelter for us? Oy! What is going to be?”
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Beyond the Male Ego - Men’s greatest fear

When G-d created Adam, the minute he opened his eyes, what was his psychological profile. What was his psyche? I mean, he had no Oedipus complex - he had no mother - right - he didn’t have a birth trauma, because he wasn’t born. What was this man like? He had no siblings, no sibling rivalry, what was the makeup of this man’s psyche? By the way, he didn’t have a survival instinct either. And that’s why when G-d said, the day you eat from this tree, you’ll die, he wasn’t impressed. Oh, so I’ll die. Easy come, easy go! He had no survival instinct. So how did his mind work?

He had a death wish, that was his psyche. He had a death wish because life felt so unnatural. So in a sense, when G-d says, from dust you are, and to dust you shall return, that’s the psyche! I came from dust I want to go back. Back to what? To dust. To nothing.
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It Might Really Be About You

The guy you’re dating tends to be a little less than punctual. The woman you’re seeing isn’t the neatest when it comes to her pocketbook, or her apartment. And it bothers you. A lot. So what do you do about it? You do what you’ve done before - you end the relationship. But if you find that you’re rejecting too many dating partners because of some “little things” you don’t like about them, then I suggest you reconsider. Because what bothers you about them, might really be about you instead.

Sure, you say you have to be with someone who values punctuality as much as you because you’ve worked so hard on it. And all of those little piles in your apartment? Well, you’ve developed an intricate system that keeps them from growing any bigger. So how could you be with someone who doesn’t make these same things as much of a priority?
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Compatibility and Your Handwriting

…the mind/body/soul connection of relationships, dating, marriage and finding your mate… fasten your soul-belt as we embark on a voyage of self discovery… you will never look at handwriting the same way again…

The following couple has successfully been married for a lifetime. What makes this union so special and unique? It is true that Hashem (G-d) makes the match at the right time and for the right reason, but we also need to nurture and cherish that relationship so that it does not dissolve or become filled with strife. What we do, how we do it and why we do it are responses very much embedded in our subconscious. What we do with our G-d given gift, how we nurture our relationship and why we are motivated to act positively or negatively can be seen through our handwriting in a simple, logical way. This article, by providing a glimpse of Productive Love can help us better understand our own psyche and perhaps aid us in establishing a better harmony with our spouse, mate, and date or loved one.
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Between Women & Men

Walking into the empty sanctuary of his synagogue, a rabbi was suddenly possessed by a wave of mystical rapture, and threw himself onto the ground before the Ark proclaiming, “Lord, I’m Nothing!”

Seeing the rabbi in such a state, the cantor felt profoundly moved by similar emotions. He too, threw himself down in front of the Ark, proclaiming, “Lord, I’m Nothing!”

Then, way in the back of the synagogue, the janitor threw himself to the ground, and he too shouted, “Lord, “I’m Nothing.”

Whereupon, the rabbi turned to the cantor and whispered, “Look who thinks he’s Nothing!”
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Created in the Image of Love

In the very opening sentences of the Torah we are told that the first human being was created in G-d’s own image. And what was that image? The first human being was actually a man and a woman — a single entity that included the two sexes. “And G-d created man in His own image, in the image of G-d created He him; male and female created He them” (Genesis 1:27).

In this union of male and female, in this oneness of opposites, the first human being reflected the image of G-d — a oneness that includes otherness and yet remains one.

This is a very important concept. A lone individual does not reflect the image of G-d; an individual in unity with another individual does. So until an individual makes a space to include another, and allows that other to do the same, we do not have the oneness that reflects the image of G-d. In other words, the image of G-d is love.
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Coming Soon!

Whether you are single or dating someone special, the relationship you want can be yours, as long as you know what to do: how to attract it if you are single, create it with your partner if you are already seeing someone.

How will you know what to do? I will help you in my new Ask Love Coach column for Jewish singles, coming soon. I look forward to answering your love, dating and relationship questions!

Single Jew of the Month

That’s it... I’m proclaiming my own series.

One could argue that I already inaugurated this series last week with the story about Lisa Loeb’s quest for a nice Jewish boy. But, due to a lifelong obsession with both archeology itself and Indiana Jones as the hotness of science personified–as well as my own single and searching status–I couldn’t pass up this story (thanks EV for sending the article from the NY Times).

Name: Josh Bernstein
Age: 34
Location: Manhattan and a tiny town in Utah you’ve never heard of.
Profession/Occupation: President of a wilderness survival school/TV host, “Digging for Truth” (The History Channel)
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Identity Crisis

We all go through this at many points in our lives, “I am going through an identity crisis”, especially while dating.

As kids we thought we wanted to be Cat Woman, Barbie, a princess… you get the point. As we grew older, and date after date, part of us wanted to become a nun — no such thing where we come from, but at times it seemed appropriate anyway since many of us go through dry spells. NEVER GIVE UP, it only takes one!

All the while never giving up, of course we choose our career paths and then we think we are Athena, Goddess of all working women. As we quickly doubt ourselves and say “wishful thinking”, we run to the astrologer to see what the stars have in store for us, Love, Marriage, Kids, Careers??? Then question why did I just pay $100.00 for that!
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The Golden Rule of Profiles

Of all the stories that I heard as child, from the Wise men of Chelm to tales of K’tan Tan, one of the stories I will always remember the most is the one about a family of little means who is visited one night by a homeless wanderer. The man asks for shelter and they take him in, feeding and bathing him before setting him up with a warm bed to spend the night. In the morning the stranger was gone, but the family was blessed for the rest of their lives because the stranger they had shown kindness too was in fact, an Angel. The lesson of this story is simple. Treat others as you would want to be treated and you too will be blessed.

So why would I bring up an old folktale? Well, it can mean the difference between success and failure on our Jewish dating sites. The biggest lesson to apply from this golden rule is to treat the singles who are reading your profile with the honesty that you would hope to receive from them.
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